08.28.11
Posted in Counseling Models and Techniques, Experiences & Musings, Information & Referrals, Spiritual Counseling Theory at 9:50 am by Michael_Reeder
I found an interesting take on AA today on CNN’s religion blog. Click here to see it — it’s entitled My Faithlessness: The atheist way through AA.
The author talks about the difficulty of being an atheist in a room full of Jesus. She acknowledges the reputation AA has for being kind of a cult in and of itself. Towards the end she states:
“I believe that the most important spiritual principle of AA is humility. The recognition that we are flawed, that we can and must change and that our purpose not only in sobriety but in life is to be of service to others.”
So she has found a way to spiritually connect in the end — through humility and service and a recognition of flawed nature. I’m glad for her.
I’m not sure this will work for many Pagan alcoholics. My Pagan clients are especially annoyed with the emphasis on surrender of power. They tend to think that they need to take back personal power and personal responsibility in order to rebuild themselves. They feel oppressed by the assumptions of one male deity. They DON’T want a nonspiritual alternative.
See:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pagans_In_Recovery
There are a number of alternative 12- and 13-step Pagan programs. Here is one such system I like which was created by Circle Sanctuary priestess Selena Fox as part of her counseling master’s degree thesis at University of Wisconsin-Madison entitled “When Goddess is God: Pagans, Recovery, and Alcoholics Anonymous”(1995):
PAGAN TWELVE STEPS
1. We recognize that we have given away personal power by addiction to substances, that this has resulted in dysfunctional living, that it’s time to reclaim our power and restore balance to ourselves and our lives.
2. Came to acknowledge that the Divine Power within can bring about healing change and harmony.
3. Chose to allow the Divine within of our own personal path to be the central guiding force in ourselves and our lives.
4. Examined ourselves deeply and honestly on all dimensions, physical, mental, behavioral, emotional, and spiritual.
5. Acknowledged to the Divine, to our egos, and to at least one ally, what is
unhealthy and unbalanced in our bodies, thoughts, emotions, behaviors & souls.
6. Were ready for the Divine within to work transformation to restore balance to ourselves and our lives.
7. Sincerely invited the Divine within to dispel barriers to change, and to facilitate transformation.
8. Made a lists of all beings we have harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such beings as much as possible, except when to do so would cause harm to them or others or make a difficult situation worse.
10. Continued our process of self-examination, acknowledging our strengths as well as our problems, promptly acknowledging our mistake & successes when they occurred.
11. Sought through spiritual activities such as rituals, meditations, chanting, dancing,
rhythm making, invocations, prayers, vigils, nature walks, journal writing, and other practices, to strengthen our relationship with the Divine within and to allow this dimension of ourselves to be the guiding force in our lives.
12 . Having had a spiritual rebirth as a result of this process of healing transformation, we continue to work with these principles and are willing to share our story with those who come to us in need.
There actually used to be a Pagan AA meeting in office space I rented on Saturdays before the local Pagan shop Mystickal Voyage shut-down. I’d love to know if they managed to relocate somewhere nearby.
I will comment that vanilla AA is often effective. I’m frequently glad it exists. I think most of the problems are as much a result of local failings and local members as of the AA system itself. Few groups run perfectly as intended.
My occasional objections to it are along the lines of AA as its own religion, the 12-Steps and the program being inviolate and those questioning are “in denial”, and of course the emphasis on surrender to higher power. Again — much of this depends upon how the local meeting is run.
Here are a few of the other variants I hear from my clients (Pagan or not):
1) Frequent complaints by high IQ clients that it seems simplistic and not open to intelligent challenge.
2) Frequent complaints of hypocritical/relapsing sponsors.
I’m not sure there is a summary point to this posting — I guess maybe that some flexibility is needed in finding a path to sobriety and to the Divine. Also that such flexibility is being created by Pagans and atheists and others who need the help while stuck in our mainstream culture.
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02.27.11
Posted in Events, Experiences & Musings, Spiritual Counseling Theory at 4:14 pm by Michael_Reeder
Just finished a wonderful weekend at the 2011 Sacred Space Conference. I’d like to thank Caroline Kenner for asking me to submit classes as well as the whole host of other event planners.
I presented a class on healer ethics — which was a very broad class concerning common ethical considerations across a wide variety of healing professions from the more medical (professional counseling, acupuncture) to the alternative (Tarot readers, energy healers, etc.). We had a small but very enthusiastic group and the class about ran itself with all the examples and questions. I was very pleased with how it went.
I also presented a very well attended class on trauma spectrum disorders with the goal of educating group leaders about what different disorders entail, how to spot them, and possible effects on their spiritual groups. Another good discussion.
The conference was fantastic — I got to go to several sessions from other presenters I really enjoyed.
I missed Jonathan White’s class on “Ceremonial and Counseling Work with Anger” which combined Pagan ceremonial methods for working on anger with counseling. Likely was a good class — his always are.
I’m happy to see several classes on mental health popping up at Pagan spiritual conferences and even happier at being invited to help teach them.
– Michael
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01.22.11
Posted in Information & Referrals, Spiritual Counseling Theory at 5:53 pm by Michael_Reeder
I added a new blog to the Pagan Counseling links section (scroll down on right-hand side). Staff of Asclepius is an attractive blog mostly about Pagan health issues. The main author Masery posts an interesting mix of Pagan health news (much of it mental health-related), interviews, and personal observations.
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08.27.10
Posted in Information & Referrals, Spiritual Counseling Theory at 3:30 pm by Michael_Reeder
Dr. Valerie Cole, the Department Chair of the Pagan Pastoral Counseling program at Cherry Hill Seminary, has started a new blog.
Dr. Cole’s blog is mainly for “psychotherapists, psychologists, helping professionals of all kinds, scientists and others who would like to discuss how a pagan perspective informs our understanding of the human psyche.”
Her first promising post is entitled “What if We are All God?” Her blog can be
http://paganpsychology.blogspot.com/
I'm looking forward to it.
-- Michael
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06.24.09
Posted in Business of psychotherapy, Experiences & Musings, Information & Referrals, Spiritual Counseling Theory at 9:31 pm by Michael_Reeder
Pagan Centered Podcast (PCP) episode #108 is now online. As I discussed in earlier posts here and here, we discuss several topics related to therapy and Paganism for a bit over an hour. It’s been online for 3 days and already has 424 downloads — I’m psyched! (Bad pun intended.)
Amber and Dave at PCP also posted a nice outline of the show online so that if you are interested in a specific topic you can jump right to the portion of the show that it’s discussed.
The outline of the show is here.
The actual .mp3 file is available for download here.
This show is also available through iTunes.
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06.14.09
Posted in Experiences & Musings, Spiritual Counseling Theory at 2:51 pm by Michael_Reeder
I got to visit the grand re-opening of a drop-in center on Friday. A drop-in center (sort of like the name implies) is a facility, usually run by other mental health clients, for the benefit of mental health consumers. They play games, watch movies, generally hang out, and frequently get involved in educational and job-related activities as well.
Anyway, I walked into this drop-in center and shortly noticed 4-5 clients all wearing pentacles, dragons, tattoos, and all the usual status stuff that marks Pagans as Pagans.
This was interesting as I don’t generally encounter lots of Pagans in the more serious mental health settings. (While not always true, people who choose to hang out with other mental health clients on their free time are often among the more seriously mentally ill.)
Well, apparently several of these Pagan folk attend the psychiatric rehab program (PRP) across town (ironically they don’t attend mine — where the management is Pagan). Pretty soon I was hearing stories of astral battles, shamanic banishment of astral nasties, and the ways in which their PRP was now cleansed, warded, and protected courtesy of the Pagan clients.
All in all a rather normal Pagan conversation. Except for the setting.
Which put me in both a state of cognitive dissonance and a thoughtful mood.
Cognitive dissonance because half of me approved and the other half of me was evaluating for possible delusions. Thoughtful because of all the ideas and questions that came to me. A sampling:
- How exactly would the typical psychiatric center staff react if they caught a banishment ritual going on? How should they react? Do they dare even consider allowing it?
- In a traditional culture (or a Pagan discussion environment) this problem would not even arise. The shaman (or Pagan) would of course be allowed to proceed with the banishment. It would not matter if he/she was really banishing nasties or just hallucinating it — the community support would make it no big deal and possibly be healing to the individual.
- But in a serious mental health center, when do you let clients run free with their paranormal experiences — especially if they are involving other clients?
- Hmmm… maybe I should ward and cleanse my PRP better too…
I’m intrigued how this all fits together. I suspect these Pagan folks just quietly do their thing, with the psychiatric staff none the wiser. Perhaps the staff overlook a certain amount of odd behavior. I think there would need to be a treatment team ethic in place something to the effect that its healthy to allow clients to work through their own delusions if no one is being hurt. (And of course, maybe its not delusion and the center is the safer for it…)
I’d be real curious to know how this balancing act plays out at their PRP — but of course if I ask I might upset the apple cart.
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06.12.09
Posted in Business of psychotherapy, Information & Referrals, Spiritual Counseling Theory at 11:50 am by Michael_Reeder
Wednesday I got to hear an advance copy of my interview with PCP: Pagan-Centered Podcast. I was very happy with it, apart from some sound quality issues. They did a good job cleaning up my “ummm..” and awkward pauses.
Self-promotion aside, I think this is a worthwhile interview to listen to if you are hesitant to see a therapist and want to know how to approach a therapist with Pagan beliefs. I also cleared up misconceptions on being involuntarily hospitalized, drugged without consent, labeled schizophrenic for paranormal experiences, and a host of other concerns. I was quite happy with it.
I believe it will be posted as episode #108 in a few weeks. You can get it off of iTunes, or visit their website for other methods.
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09.19.08
Posted in Experiences & Musings, Spiritual Counseling Theory at 1:12 pm by Michael_Reeder
I sent the following memo out to my staff at a psychiatric rehabilitation day program today. What are your thoughts on the proper role of religion and/or spirituality in a state-funded psychiatric environment? When does it help with recovery? When does it hurt? Does the presence of ANY religion pressure nonbelievers? Does its absence leave believers with a hole in their heart? What if they don’t have the means to get out to their religious or spiritual community?
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Religion and spirituality has always been a touchy subject in mental health. I’ve been sending strong signals lately that some religion and spirituality in the program is fine. Here’s why:
- Our institutional population is often not able to get to church or other religious activities and so are missing out on the spiritual/religious aspects of their lives.
- I believe in a holistic program approach encompassing mind, body, and spirit. We bring in everything else the clients need.
- There are now several studies in the psych literature that show a link between spirituality and recovery – especially for depression and for drug/alcohol issues. (See Keating & Fretz, 1990; Propst et al., 1992; Worthington, Kurusu, McCullough, & Sandage, 1996).
However, at the same time this is a secular, state-funded program which provides equal services to all clients – religious or not.
So a balance is needed – a way to provide spiritual and religious programming but in a totally optional way that pressures and evangelizes no one.
Here are the rules I’m flying by for spiritual and religious classes and activities:
- They are appropriate only if there is absolutely no pressure whatsoever on clients to attend.
- They are appropriate only when there are other attractive activities in the same timeslot of a secular nature.
- Spiritual/religious activities will usually be held in a side classroom rather than the community room in order to further emphasize that attendance is optional and so it does not by default grab up folks who just sit in the community room.
- There must be enough client interest to justify the programming strictly on client need (not evangelism). This is pretty clear for Christianity right now. For other religions like Buddhism, etc. I’d theoretically be just as happy to have classes if there was a need. I suspect given smaller numbers of interested clients, such could be accommodated by client-run clubs.
This is verbose, but I hope clear – please feel free to hit me with questions individually or at staff meeting.
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09.11.08
Posted in Events, Got My Geek On!, Information & Referrals, Spiritual Counseling Theory at 8:28 am by Michael_Reeder
A few weeks ago I participated at a holistic health fair at Mystickal Voyage Holistic Center. I figured I’d run my usual information booth, hand out flyers, etc.
So I got there and — during my 4-hour shift anyway — every single other booth was staffed by a Tarot reader or a psychic. Meanwhile the organizers were assuming that everyone was doing 15 minute readings and had already started a sign-up sheet for me!
Those used to Tarot reading are likely reading this and saying “so what?”, and therapists reading this are cringing…
Anyway, I got a speed lesson in intense 15 minute coaching sessions. No divination. Just tell me your problem, tap into your creativity, and brainstorm next steps. It was fun and seemed to work quite well. Clients seemed happy. Of course, I made far less in tips than the Tarot readers and psychics — so that should be a clue to any students out there as to what profession to get into. (I donated tips to the Stepping Stones Nigeria orphanage for “witch” children.)
15 minute coaching sessions require a focus — something to pull the client right to the problem, tap their creativity, and immediately get them looking at the problem from a new angle instead of the stuck spot they came in occuping. This is where card decks become critical. There is ALOT we can learn from Tarot readers.
I have a whole workshop on using cards in counseling, but basically the story is that they can facilitate answers whether or not you believe divination is going on. The story used in psychotherapy anyway is that the mind is a meaning making engine and that a part of your mind will always try to make a meaning out of any information put in front of it. So if you think of a problem and pick a card, 9 out of 10 times your mind will supply a useful link between the card and the problem. In so doing your unconscious creativity surfaces.
I thought maybe I’d take this opportunity to list out some card decks that I use in therapy that I find very useful. Depending upon the need, I was pulling these decks out during the holistic fair:
Soul Coaching Oracle Cards — Have a simple picture and words such as Strength, Gratitude, Faith, Commitment, etc. Obviously usually used in divination but also great for the therapy situation described above where you ask the client to make a connection between the card message and their issue. I’ve also used these in “Resiliency” class at my psych rehabilitation program with a room full of folks with schizophrenia. The central lesson was that we all have resources to be strong with even if we have limitations or little money. By the time everyone drew a card and discussed their “love”, “freedom”, “grace”, etc. the room was much more upbeat and positive.
Dreaming in Color Deck — Emotional and spiritual states linked to artwork. Good for pulling emotions out of people stuck in their head. I’ve written about these before — click here.
Planning on Purpose Deck — A boring-looking, badly-printed deck by a career counseling center that is absolutely the best informal tool around for figuring out what your life priorities are. It’s supposedly geared towards career but the conversation can quickly become existential as the client figures out what matters in life. Using them is deceptively simple — clients sort the cards (with phrases such as “Nesting, creating a home”, “Sports, sports”, and “Leaving the World a Better Place”) into piles of low and high interest. Then they rank order the most important pile. Then you discuss how to bring their life into accordance with their top rank-ordered values. Good for helping break depression.
Healing the Mind and Spirit Cards — Advice for living with positive affirmations to change your thoughts. Good for when someone needs an “answer” and hope.
Hudes Tarot Deck — I almost never use Tarot cards. If I do, its in the context of architypal work. Along the lines of “find the cards that remind you of parts of yourself”. Useful in this way for helping people come to appreciate and be aware of all of the parts inside them. Usually the client is already familiar with Tarot or I find another way to work. This is one of my favorite decks.
Thanks,
Michael
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12.28.07
Posted in Experiences & Musings, Spiritual Counseling Theory at 4:45 pm by Michael_Reeder
I’m struck as I look at the past few weeks at the power of trances to get to the root of the issue. Therapists with hypnotherapy and hypnosis training should be looking at how their skills overlap with guided journeying and astral travel in Neo-Pagan rituals.
One of the differences between the two is that Pagans believe their soul really is traveling to a distant realm on the astral and that the Beings that they talk to while there are real and constitute contacts outside of themselves.
But the techniques are highly similar. A Wiccan coven might decide to do a guided journey to meet an aspect of the Crone to determine what their needs are for the coming year. This might very well be done in the next month or so as this is the dark time — the time of the year where you rest up from the efforts of the past year, take stock of your gains and losses, then start planning new projects to coincide with the spring. This coven would likely invoke sacred space, dim the lights, light candles and incense, and then have members relax and close their eyes while the leader walks them through a visualization of going down a tunnel into an astral realm. There they meet a goddess and are asked to individually hear what She has to say and what gifts She gives them. The coven members are then walked back up the tunnel and bought back to wakefulness — possibly soon followed by cakes and ale (food) which further brings them back into their bodies. The experiences are often then shared (which reinforces their validity since most people had them) and helps the group support everyone in attaining what the message said they needed.
Compare this with the guided meditation I recently ran with a client (and I’ve done this or similar several times). The client is trying to figure out the proper direction to go in life. So I have the client close his/her eyes, do some deep breathing for relaxation, then I have the client walk down 10 stair steps — each step taking the client deeper and deeper into relaxation, closer and closer to the place where they can see within themselves what they most need to do. We get to the bottom of the steps and I suggest all manner of possible places they might find themselves while leaving details vague. I suggest that parts of themselves or spiritual guides might show up to help them. Soon the client is describing being in the middle of an activity that feels completely right, peaceful, exciting, and productive. We close by going back up the stairs, turning the lights on, and standing up and clapping our hands a few times to fully return to room. The remander of the session is spent discussing what first steps in the real mundane world might be taken to realistically work towards the envisioned new long-range goal.
The similarities are incredible. One protocol uses words like trance induction, deepening, and calling on inner resources. The other protocol uses words like astral travel, magick, and goddesses. I’m not saying they are exactly the same — they are the same only if you don’t believe that it’s possible to leave the body, or don’t believe goddesses can actually speak to you.
But for therapists counseling Pagan clients, using the toolsets they already believe in and have practiced can make a world of difference.
To a typical Pagan client, being contacted while in trance (on the Astral plane) by an entity or God is a religious experience. It brings a whole new level of importance to the message. The message is not “merely” from the person’s own mind — it is often a Divine message to be taken much more seriously and acted upon much more promptly. There is much greater authority and belief vested in the message.
And so we reach another choice point or ethical decision point for the therapist. If you happen to be a therapist who is religiously Pagan, this is all well and good (and ordinary) for you. If you are not a Pagan therapist, how do you feel about using techniques that may bring along a Divine message? One that you don’t really believe in yourself? Do you worry that a “Divine” message may come through that the client will feel obligated to act on that you may not feel is good for the client?
Honestly, I’ve usually found such messages to be highly useful and to the highest good of the client. I’ll leave it up to you to decide then whether higher power or the client’s own unconscious was the source.
– Michael
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